Walk A Mile in Her Shoes: Lori Harder

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Hey StilettoGals,

I am so excited to introduce you to this amazing female entrepreneur.  She has not only written an amazing book, but created a movement to empower others.  I had the opportunity to sit down with her to learn more about her story.  I am thrilled that I get to share her story here but also live at our Boss Talks series on June 25th!


StilettoGal:    What is the inspiration behind your business?

Lori Harder: This inspiration behind my business is always and has always been wanting to free women from the pain and fear of judgement and teach them how to step into their highest potential by connecting to themselves and each other.

I’m so passionate about this message because I used to be my own biggest obstacle feeding myself all the fear stories that would keep me small and filled with anxiety and panic.  Now I know that it was all leading me to my purpose of sharing what got me through with others.

SG:    If you could do it all over again, what would you do differently?

LH:  I’m being totally honest when I say that as of today, I would not change a thing.  If you would have asked me ten years ago though, I would have tried to change all of my mistakes.  Now I can see that you have to go through it all to gain the strength and perspective to understand what and who is an isn’t for you and what is going to help you go to the next level.


SG:    Being an entrepreneur can be really hard, what do you do to keep going when times get tough?

LH:  When I feel like throwing in the towel, I usually know it’s time for a walk or some sort of perspective shift.  This usually comes from talking and processing through whatever is making me feel like I want to give up, with someone close to me or another entrepreneur who understands what I’m going through.  I always remember that no matter how hard it gets, I get to choose what I focus on and that ultimately, I choose this over anything else.


SG:   Name 3 words that describe you.






SG:   What are 3 tips you can give to entrepreneurs?


1.)  I believe in bootstrapping your business.  There are times where you need outside capitol but in the beginning, do everything you can stay debt free and retain 100% of your biz.


2.)  Join a tribe or mastermind. Seek business groups who have the type of relationships that will help your business grow.


3.)  Do not give up, ever. There is no failing as an entrepreneur – only learning.  Losing is a part of success.  Losing money, friends and time will feel scary at first, but it is all a part of the journey.

SG:    How do you build a tribe around you that is authentic?

LH:  In order to build an authentic tribe, it means that you have to start the work with you.  If you are not showing and holding the intention of really being and acting as who you are, you will attract others who aren’t showing up as themselves as well.  Hold the intention and energy of what you desire for your tribe, be that energy and have clear boundaries, expectations and agreements that you desire out of the relationships.  An authentic tribe is intentional and when you don’t state who you are and what you desire, no one can read your mind and they won’t share who they are in a clear way either.

SG:   Why did you feel it was important to write this book now and what are you hoping it achieves with women everywhere?

LH:  Now more than ever, we are craving authentic, deep, connected relationships – but we are also equally afraid to enter into them.  We are so scared of judgement and rejection so we avoid entering into the very thing that will generate all that we desire. I knew I had to write this book to give women the tools, scripts and way to have the conversations to create the tribe we all dream of but don’t know how to create. In order to feel safe enough to be fully us, show up in all of our imperfectly perfect glory, we need a tribe of women who have our backs no matter how tough it gets out there.  They will remind you that you are here for a huge reason.  The rate that you get back up from the knock downs, will turn around much quicker, therefore spending way more time feeling good, than isolated and in fear.

SG:  What kind of shoe are you and why?

LH:  I would be a sparkly, strappy, flat sandal.  I am comfortable, free to be myself and I can go with everything.  I know I have an amazing support system and tribe that allows me to go out in the world wholeheartedly and comfortably.


Lori Harder is a leading expert in the field of fitness, transformational work, mindfulness, and self-love. As a self-made millionaire, successful entrepreneur, network marketing professional, author, cover model, and three-time fitness world champion, she offers a carefully curated set of practical tools to promote sustainable health, spiritual well-being, and financial freedom. She is the creator of the Earn Your Happy podcast and the author of A Tribe Called Bliss.